Suspicious wife killing marriage but Ive done nothing wrong!
Posted: Sat Apr 17, 2010 1:31 pm
Hi, just wondered if anyone else is going through the same as me and what you think I should do about it?
I have only been married for just over 6 months and it already looks as though it will end soon.
I have been with my wife for about 3 years - however I am in the military and so lived/worked away from home for the first 2 years of our relationship. I used to drive 600 miles every weekend to see her! She moved up to live with me when we married - and since then she has driven me bonkers!!
I have never known anyone be so adamant that her husband is cheating or doing wrong...she checks my phone, goes through my email, raids my facebook - even put a keylogger on my laptop so she could check everything im up to online. She is convinced I have done something wrong - or that I want to cheat on her...it really is getting beynd now. Truth is - I have never done anything wrong - I love my wife so much I would never go behind her back and make a fool out of her. I can't take anymore of being treated like a criminal though!
She constantly makes comments about me and other women. Which she says are jokes but I know she's serious. Every conversation seems to descend into an argument because I get hacked off about her making a comment - or an accusation.
I can't go anywhere or do anything without there being a fight before and afterwards. I play for a football team on weekends - every week we have the same fight because she doesn't 100% believe I'm not up to anything while Im out. I can't mention any female colleagues at work to her or I know she will start to obssess Im having an affair with them. I'm not exaggerating here - she will get an attitude with me for the slightest of reasons. She twists everything in her head in such a way that it's possible I did something wrong.
Anyway...I'm not a complete angel, I confided in an old female friend once about my problems - I did this through facebook and inevitably my wife saw everything. I'd said I wasn't happy and that I maybe had made a mistake getting married. Since then she has always had an obsession that I had some sort of physical relation with this girl...just another thing that she moans at me for!
I also got caught out looking at porn on my computer (i didnt know about the keylogger at this point!!) - I wasn't even looking at it to pleasure myself - I was given a link to an amusing site by a friend at work but of course this was just another nail in my marriages coffin! Now she uses this to embarress me when we fight - knowing that I am ashamed to have been caught looking at it. She says that I have a sick dirty problem!
This morning she saw that I had looked up a BBC documentary on legal prostitution in nevada - again saying I have sick dirty habits. She now says that she doesn't want to be with me anymore and is making plans to leave me. I know I don't help myself, but I really haven't done anything wrong....being treated like this is killing me.
Would you try and save this marriage - or just take this opportunity to get out and try move on and find someone who wont treat me like this?
I have only been married for just over 6 months and it already looks as though it will end soon.
I have been with my wife for about 3 years - however I am in the military and so lived/worked away from home for the first 2 years of our relationship. I used to drive 600 miles every weekend to see her! She moved up to live with me when we married - and since then she has driven me bonkers!!
I have never known anyone be so adamant that her husband is cheating or doing wrong...she checks my phone, goes through my email, raids my facebook - even put a keylogger on my laptop so she could check everything im up to online. She is convinced I have done something wrong - or that I want to cheat on her...it really is getting beynd now. Truth is - I have never done anything wrong - I love my wife so much I would never go behind her back and make a fool out of her. I can't take anymore of being treated like a criminal though!
She constantly makes comments about me and other women. Which she says are jokes but I know she's serious. Every conversation seems to descend into an argument because I get hacked off about her making a comment - or an accusation.
I can't go anywhere or do anything without there being a fight before and afterwards. I play for a football team on weekends - every week we have the same fight because she doesn't 100% believe I'm not up to anything while Im out. I can't mention any female colleagues at work to her or I know she will start to obssess Im having an affair with them. I'm not exaggerating here - she will get an attitude with me for the slightest of reasons. She twists everything in her head in such a way that it's possible I did something wrong.
Anyway...I'm not a complete angel, I confided in an old female friend once about my problems - I did this through facebook and inevitably my wife saw everything. I'd said I wasn't happy and that I maybe had made a mistake getting married. Since then she has always had an obsession that I had some sort of physical relation with this girl...just another thing that she moans at me for!
I also got caught out looking at porn on my computer (i didnt know about the keylogger at this point!!) - I wasn't even looking at it to pleasure myself - I was given a link to an amusing site by a friend at work but of course this was just another nail in my marriages coffin! Now she uses this to embarress me when we fight - knowing that I am ashamed to have been caught looking at it. She says that I have a sick dirty problem!
This morning she saw that I had looked up a BBC documentary on legal prostitution in nevada - again saying I have sick dirty habits. She now says that she doesn't want to be with me anymore and is making plans to leave me. I know I don't help myself, but I really haven't done anything wrong....being treated like this is killing me.
Would you try and save this marriage - or just take this opportunity to get out and try move on and find someone who wont treat me like this?