by Coolcats05 » Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:11 pm
First of all, I am sorry to hear of your state of affairs. Divorce tends to be a painful and stressful event for most people; however, your situation seems to warrant even more empathy. How long have you been married? Have you been deployed before while you have been married? Do you have any idea why she might be suggesting divorce?
I don’t know what kind of communication you’ve had with your wife. In my psychology class, I have learned that, “Effective communication is crucial to the success of a marriage.” Since you are overseas, I can’t imagine that you are having effective communication with her. Obviously your wife is under a lot of stress, perhaps you should seek the advice of a marriage counselor when you return.
I am not a psychiatrist, but I do have a friend that was in a similar situation. She had been married with two children for approximately six years. Her husband was on leave when their second child was born. At first she seemed okay, but there were a lot of people around to help her. As time went on the stress of running the household on her own and missing her husband started to take its toll. She had mentioned divorce but they are still married today. That was three years ago.
I sincerely hope that things work out for you and your family, thank you for your military service.