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[ThunderHorse]

As a Husband, I should give more compliments to my wife. I give suggestions to my wife, at a ratio that is not 1/4 or 1/7 recommented fro relationships. One exercise to help me do better might be to list some comliments in this thread, and review the list of compliments more frequently.

Your legs are curvey.

Your inisights are wonderful.

Your presence is amazing.

Your energies are divine.

"Perfect" to anything she does at all.

Your touch is energzng.

You are an important part of my self-reward system.

Today, I deserve some rewards because of my efforts to....

Your relaxing and tightening your muscles sends me Love.

Your walking and Aerobic exercises show in your lungs filling, your chest expanison, and energy fields

Your movements are real graceful.

Your make-up/hair style makes you look glamorous.

Your festive mood helps me celebrate my efforts for the past few days.

Your appreciation makes me feel like finding ways to do more for you.

Your ideas are fascinationg.

Your arousal is quick and exciting.

Your clothes are fashionable.

The colors of your clothes accent your dignity and command respect.

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[Scott Haltzman]

Excellent, T-horse.
And creative!
-Scott

[ThunderHorse]

If her clothes, colors of clothes or hair style or make up is:

Out of date, it is "Traditional, worthy of respect, food for your halo, giving me the feeling you are keeping your marriage vows."

Skimpy, revealing, it is "Glamorous"

Mismatched, it is "Trendy, modern, up with the times."

Looks fake, "Glamourous, fashionable"

Clothes too tight, "Accentuates your figure"

Women can often tell if you are thinking positive or negative. It may be your facial expression, or body language of your arm position, or just good intuition, but you can give compliments without words. Similarly, I can give my wife crititicism without words. So it is important for me to monitor my thougths or opinions, as I interact with my wife, to keep my total communication more positive.



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[ThunderHorse]

Other words/concepts for compliments, for me to review for having good compliments ready :

Sophisticated, Elegant, Classic, Classy, Upstanding, Professional, Business-like.

Food can be delicious, tastes good, nutritious, balanced, good shopping, cooked just right.



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[ThunderHorse]

Reverse or indirect compliments are sometimes more effective than direct compliments.

To tell her her opinion is important to me, I could say, "I am glad you like it." Instead of "It turned out well," when I she recognizes someting I did around the house. or "I am happy that you appreciate my efforts."

When she criticizes some one else for something, I could say, "You are much different from that because you avoid that fault by ......."

Re-assurance is another type of easy compiment, that can be hurtful if missed. My wife sometimes asks for reassurance, and I am sure there are times I missed what she was asking for, or even gave an "honest", first blush, opinion, without thinking of her positive side.





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[ThunderHorse]

Attractive, attractive on you, Seems Attractive to me.

Tantalizing, scrumptious, Tasty.

Enjoyable, pleasing, calming, quieting,

Energizing, inspiring, pulsating, pulling, irresistable.

[ThunderHorse]

You are so good at keeping things organized. I wish I had the habit to hang up my coat everytime I go in and out, instead of leaving my coat in a conveniet, empty chair.

You have a good vision for keepnig the home looking organized and neat. I should do better at keeping the posessions I consider important, to be in an agreed-upon area, for my stuff.

[ThunderHorse]

Effervescant.

Your ideas are bubling up so nicely in your expressions of ideas to me. I can see your intelligence processing information to think of ideas for improvements and solutions.

I see your love for our cildren in action. You express your care and concerns in real terms. I am able to feel your thougths in energy.

I see your thoughts turning into action plans, as you organize the kitchen and living room.

It is a pleasure to watch your intelligence seek opportinities for improving things for the family.


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[ThunderHorse]

You have good ideas for family relations, and how family members can get along better, or how they can settle thier differences.

You seem to have a knack for coaching family member how to overlook, or accomodate any oversights or bad habits they might find difficult to change.

Your ideas on family finances and how to make wise iverstments in our jobs is helpful for making good decisions.


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[ThunderHorse]

Compliments for disagreeing:

Instead of pointing out what I disagree about with what my wife might mention, I can fashion a 1/2 compliment.

I might disagree with a religious principle that she mentions, so I can say, "You are making good progress in your more expansive spiritual understanding, and attending church meetings has probably helped in your progress." Unspoken meaning is: YOU STILL HAVE FURTHER TO GO, AND I DISAGREE WITH MOST OF THE PRINCIPLES YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT. AND, I HAVE A PRETTY GOOD IDEA WHERE YOU GOT THE RELIGIOUS IDEAS WITH WHICH I DISAGREE.



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[ThunderHorse]

Good Analytical skills


Good at channeling spritual energies to help.



Good at communicating our expectations for our children.


Making good progress toward......




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