So what do you do as an alternative?
Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2006 5:46 pm
I have pretty much resolved to the fact the wife is not going to change as far as wanting me\sex. 2-3 times per month is going to be it and I'm not going to change that. She won't even talk about it. Now, I don't want to leave as I'm not in a position where I want to start my whole life all over. The idea of being single and having to find a woman as a mate and THEN she also has to enjoy sex just seems impossible.
So...
...how do you cope? I've talked with a few other folks online in my position and some of them were women with low libidio husbands. They said they just found other things to occupy their time. Like what? I mean, will pottery replace an orgasm? Will volunterring at church replace giving oral? I don't mean to be crude or a smartass but I don't get it?
Do folks with low libido spouses...Cheat? Masturbate ALOT? Take something to reduce their drive? What do you do?
I tried visitng some other message boards and all I read is women who brag about how many times a day they do it and men who talk about what animals their wives are with wanting to watch porn, surprise them with sexual favors, etc.
Yeah, thats the LAST thing I want to hear.
At what point can a late 30s guy like myself just expect to not want it anymore? Seriously, I wish I could donate my libido or my ability to still get rock hard erections to some poor guy who is having to take Viagra to keep up with his wife as my biological ability to perform is definitely going to waste as the only one who appreciates it is my left hand.
So...
...how do you cope? I've talked with a few other folks online in my position and some of them were women with low libidio husbands. They said they just found other things to occupy their time. Like what? I mean, will pottery replace an orgasm? Will volunterring at church replace giving oral? I don't mean to be crude or a smartass but I don't get it?
Do folks with low libido spouses...Cheat? Masturbate ALOT? Take something to reduce their drive? What do you do?
I tried visitng some other message boards and all I read is women who brag about how many times a day they do it and men who talk about what animals their wives are with wanting to watch porn, surprise them with sexual favors, etc.
Yeah, thats the LAST thing I want to hear.
At what point can a late 30s guy like myself just expect to not want it anymore? Seriously, I wish I could donate my libido or my ability to still get rock hard erections to some poor guy who is having to take Viagra to keep up with his wife as my biological ability to perform is definitely going to waste as the only one who appreciates it is my left hand.