Well here we go....I've been married to my wife for 9 years. We've been together for 12. I absolutely love her madly. However my actions of the last couple of years have allowed her to think I've "checked out" of the marriage. I have made her feel bad or guilty for not wanting to have sex. She feels the only time I'd show her any affection was when I was trying to "get some". As she slept alone in our cal king bed upstairs, I've spent countless evenings passed out on the couch with sportscenter after tossing off to some choice internet galleries. She told me a couple of months ago to take care of her up here (pointing to her head) and the sex would come.
I didn't take the hint and now she has told me how unhappy she is. I never clued in to what she was going through until I sat and analyzed how she must feel.
Now, She says she loves me but she's not sure she wants to stay with me. She says she needs to examine her expectations for happiness.
She's also not happy with herself and how she acts when she's “the bitching, nagging wife“. Yet she feels like she shouldn't have to modify her expectations. She says she wants to seek therapy to sort things out.
She is also a rather successful ,career driven woman, Which I feel I've enabled by being a rather involved father. I've picked up a lot of slack with our young boys while she's out of town on business etc. I guess I thought this was my way of caring by supporting her endeavors professionally . “No!â€