Why all the "Info" about how to get your wife to have sex?
Posted: Tue Mar 13, 2012 10:53 am
So once again this morning I see another story about getting wives to have sex. (http://www.aol.com/video/youve-got-jenna-mccarthy/517300979/?icid=maing-grid7|maing11|video-module|sec1_lnk1|142879 last part of the video). I've got a question - what if having sex with your wife isn't even interesting?
A little history - she hit menopause about 10 years ago at 35. My testosterone levels crashed a couple of years ago when I started taking blood pressure medication that included a diuretic(sp?). We have both been on some form of hormone replacement for the past year or so. The HRT helped for a bit but now seems like a waste of time and money. For years now sex has been missing a lot. I don't think I have had an orgasm in a couple of years. At minimum for many months. Lately I've had trouble maintaining an erection during intercourse because it isn't exciting and quickly just gets frustrating. Viagra doesn't help at all if I'm not interested. I am still VERY attracted to women and have quite a few attractive women friends. I have actually thought about having sex with someone else but decided I would have trouble staying married if that sex turned out to be the least bit satisfying.
So what is the BS that seems to be pushed everywhere about women are always great at sex? Is it some left over from when women were young and had the figure that said they like sex and still enjoy it? From what I'm experiencing now this seems to be a sick joke. Listening to several recent conversations among several women friends I noticed that a frequent underlying opinion was that these women felt like sex with them was so great that their partners (men and women) would be motivated to do anything for them. Examples - "I like my boobs, they get me things." "Of course she cheated, her husband wasn't keeping her satisfied." "I want to find a man to help me have a baby and pay for raising it" said by a lesbian. "My ob/gyn said if I wanted a baby I need to be on the hunt for a man so I joined Match.com." Most of these were made during conversation that included me and my wife.
Since there have been some posts requesting what question the post was asking -
1) Are all women 'great at sex' as seems to be pushed by the media?
2) Is my current experience "normal"? Said another way, is this what we can all expect as we age?
3) How does Dr Scott's recommendation to continue to have sex during marital issues work here?
A little history - she hit menopause about 10 years ago at 35. My testosterone levels crashed a couple of years ago when I started taking blood pressure medication that included a diuretic(sp?). We have both been on some form of hormone replacement for the past year or so. The HRT helped for a bit but now seems like a waste of time and money. For years now sex has been missing a lot. I don't think I have had an orgasm in a couple of years. At minimum for many months. Lately I've had trouble maintaining an erection during intercourse because it isn't exciting and quickly just gets frustrating. Viagra doesn't help at all if I'm not interested. I am still VERY attracted to women and have quite a few attractive women friends. I have actually thought about having sex with someone else but decided I would have trouble staying married if that sex turned out to be the least bit satisfying.
So what is the BS that seems to be pushed everywhere about women are always great at sex? Is it some left over from when women were young and had the figure that said they like sex and still enjoy it? From what I'm experiencing now this seems to be a sick joke. Listening to several recent conversations among several women friends I noticed that a frequent underlying opinion was that these women felt like sex with them was so great that their partners (men and women) would be motivated to do anything for them. Examples - "I like my boobs, they get me things." "Of course she cheated, her husband wasn't keeping her satisfied." "I want to find a man to help me have a baby and pay for raising it" said by a lesbian. "My ob/gyn said if I wanted a baby I need to be on the hunt for a man so I joined Match.com." Most of these were made during conversation that included me and my wife.
Since there have been some posts requesting what question the post was asking -
1) Are all women 'great at sex' as seems to be pushed by the media?
2) Is my current experience "normal"? Said another way, is this what we can all expect as we age?
3) How does Dr Scott's recommendation to continue to have sex during marital issues work here?