Well, I'm seeing that I am not the only man wanting more sex from his wife. We have been married almost 20 years. I have been doing everything I can to make my wife know that she is loved. I give her notes and cards, send cute e-mails, and text messages. I run errands, compliment her endlessly, tell her how beautiful she is, buy her little gifts and flowers etc. I have sent surprise packages through the mail to her work with love notes inside. I cook her dinners, run errands, do chores, and countless other little tasks to be helpful to her. Yet I find that she is rarely in the mood for intimacy. Sure, sometimes she agrees to let me have sex with her (she cooperates), but rarely participates and almost never initiates. Its not just the physical aspect of the sex I miss, I so crave the closeness and oneness that can be had by having mutual sex with a person that you love dearly. There almost always seems to be an excuse; "too tired, stomach-ache, headache, "Aren't you too tired?". This is not the way it used to be, but is the case more of the time over the last 3-4 years. I am having difficulty dealing with the rejection. I want her to let me know she loves me and is attracted to me. I am finding it difficult to sustain all of this without reciprocation.
What now?