I have read several books on marriage. I have ordered your book as well. My question is this, how do I get my wife to try to make the marriage better?
I was a selfish husband for many years. I never cheated in any way, I just did what I wanted and neglected her. She put up with me and now 11 years into the marriage I am finally making an effort. I am reading books, going to the his needs her needs classes. Kevin Lehman's class. She never gets interested in any of it. I have my flaws, but I cant seem to get her to get interested in trying to make things better. She promises she will try but nothing ever changes. Everytime I bring up one of these marriage books she just shrugs it off saying "it's just gonna tell me to have more sex with you, they all do" It is as if she has given up.
How do I get through to her that I want to make things better for us? I feel like I am making all the effort, but I know she probably felt that way for a long time. I have no right after all this time to demand she try, but I would really like it.
How do I get her motivated about our marriage?