My wife and I have never been sexually compatible in my opinion. Neither gets what the other wants in bed (although in my single days I always aimed to please). I think we're at a standoff. Additionally,and a big part of the reason for this is I'm not physically attractive to her. She has gotten out of shape and health is not a priority to her. I'm thinking after 6 years with her that this can't be fixed (ok, fixed is the wrong word, but you know what I mean). A couple issues on my end include a lack of a career and being on anti-depressants for over a year (mostly due to career woes), which makes me not want sex as much anyway. But we now have it less than once a month after being married only 3 years, and that has gone on for well over a year now.
So I am starting to consider divorce. I will be 40 this year, and if I'm going to have a family, it needs to happen before I'm too old. Also, I'd like it to be with a woman I'm physically attracted to AND have more in common than we do,which is next to nothing.
Has anyone else gone through this?