Re: Husband Has Low Sex Drive. I Need Advice.
Posted: Thu May 02, 2013 4:38 am
To: Fallen 1,
One part of the problem seems to be that you feel less confident about yourself, when your husband rejects your suggestions for intimacy.
I used to feel upset when my wife rejected my advances. These days, I still get rejected frequently, but once in a while, I ask at the right time, and things go great. I have decided to stop feeling upset when I get rejected, and just back off, and wait for another time to approach her.
Can you find ways to feel good about yourself, even though your moods don't match up as often as you would like? It seems that your are upset about your man promising, but not delivering. To me, Arousal is not an act of will, so promises are not able to be kept, or broken, but promises give hope for the future, rather than forming a contract, with penalty clauses. If you are willing to go to counseling, you might go by yourself, at least at first, and let your man know that you found a helpful counselor.
Women are often in the mood in the evening, and men are known for the Morning Erection. You menition suggesting Love in the evenings. Are there other times you might be wiling to suggest intimacy? What ways are willing to start early stages of foreplay, to intiate arousal for your husband? What methods of early foreplay do you believe are wrong? What methods of early foreplay are you willing to start to explore? How would you start?
Does your man know how to let you vent 15 minutes per day?
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One part of the problem seems to be that you feel less confident about yourself, when your husband rejects your suggestions for intimacy.
I used to feel upset when my wife rejected my advances. These days, I still get rejected frequently, but once in a while, I ask at the right time, and things go great. I have decided to stop feeling upset when I get rejected, and just back off, and wait for another time to approach her.
Can you find ways to feel good about yourself, even though your moods don't match up as often as you would like? It seems that your are upset about your man promising, but not delivering. To me, Arousal is not an act of will, so promises are not able to be kept, or broken, but promises give hope for the future, rather than forming a contract, with penalty clauses. If you are willing to go to counseling, you might go by yourself, at least at first, and let your man know that you found a helpful counselor.
Women are often in the mood in the evening, and men are known for the Morning Erection. You menition suggesting Love in the evenings. Are there other times you might be wiling to suggest intimacy? What ways are willing to start early stages of foreplay, to intiate arousal for your husband? What methods of early foreplay do you believe are wrong? What methods of early foreplay are you willing to start to explore? How would you start?
Does your man know how to let you vent 15 minutes per day?
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