by ThunderHorse » Mon Dec 14, 2009 2:13 am
Your husband saying that he does not find you attractive may be true and honest on one level. There maybe more levels of honesty and truth.
Attractiveness of a woman to a man has also to do with her other interaction with the husband.
A woman usually has little understanding of how to be respectful to a man.
A wife can be very cutting to a man, without her even realizing she has cut her man to the bone.
Also, you are going through a readjustment after having been living together without children of his own, to having a child with you, to being married with children. You might look back to see what changes you have made, as the relationshikp has progressed.
To be respectful to a man, you need to understand his politics, his sports teams, hie religious beliefs, personal philosphies, his basic of ehtics of right and wrong, prison versus probabtion offenses, etc. You do not descrie his challenges, and the effort he makes to work, and support you.
Women generally like to ventilate their ideas when they talk to their husband. But this thinking-through type of conversation might include mentioning concepts that are discouraging to the husband.
So I suggest using this thread to describe how you are being respectful to the ideas of your husband, by listing what you know about his beliefs, and what you try to void saying, and mistakes you have made this week, in not being as respectul as possible.
When I criticize my 32 year old son, my wife gets upset with me. I have criticized our son several times this week. I should better ask questions, rather than making statements, to get my point across.
Have you found Weight Watcher's helpful? What green diamond foods do you like? What does your husband like to eat? Is that the same as the children like to eat? Is there room in the refrigerator for what your husband likes to eat?
I have a drawer in the refrigerator and a shelf in the freezer. My wife is constantly putting her stuff in my areas. So when I pick up some of my goodies, knowing I have room, there is no room for my stuff, when I get home.
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