I am happily married, and faithful to my wife. And she to me. We are very close, and very much in love. We share everything, and communicate well.
For about 7 years, she has had no desire for sex. She is neither aroused, nor finds it in herself to wish to be so, for herself, although she thinks it would be better for us both if she were. We pray together for a restoration daily. We have had therapy, used various medications, including testosterone, etc., and gotten no help.
At present, I have no hope, save a miracle, that this will change.
This is a cross to me, and I try to accept it.
I wonder if anyone else can speak to our situation.
Please don't go on about her using porn to help or about my lovemaking skills, or romantic get-a-ways or about childhood abuse, or any other of the usual suspects. We reject porn as immoral, and we have tried all the rest, and we have gone through all of the standard accounts, with 4 therapists and with great candor. And, she was responsive and orgasmic for the first 25 years of our marriage.
It is what it is, and it hurts.
Btw, she is very kind about letting me have intercourse with her, but it does nothing for her.