Ordinarily,my wife is not spontaneously in the mood for ultimate stimulation at the time when I desire excitement.
So, as a husband, I become the designer of arousal.
Massage and foreplay sequences.
But also, I will make mistakes, advancing faster than she is ready. I will see signals of irritation, or recieve push-aways.
So part of planning for arousal, is planning to recover from my mistakes. Mistakes may be advancing too far, too fast, or with too much force in pushing or squeezing.
The nice thing about having pushed too hard, is that by releasing, and going to a non-contact part of the bed, my wife's muscles are giving endorphins, into the circulation systems of her body, and creating arousal, while I am in my rejection recovery time.
Ordinarily, rejections are unpleasant for me. But I should rationalize that the time of honoring a rejection by my wife, is also building excitement. Free results with no effort.
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