by elizacol » Thu Jan 11, 2007 11:59 pm
Whether it is 'normal' or not is irrelevant.
Your feelings on the matter count. Why? Because
your husband married YOU. By doing so, he
agreed to forsake all others. Many won't
agree, but in my book, that includes strip
clubs.
A marriage is a partnership. BOTH partner's feelings count.
You deserve to be heard by him regarding
your feelings.
I DO feel he should have been open and forthright
about this PRIOR to marriage. In that regard, I feel
you were deceived, as you didn't know the 'true'
person you married. Had you been privy to that,
your feelings on marrying him MIGHT have been
different.
I know mine would have.
As for what you can do...stay true to yourself,
ultimately.
You have to decide what YOU find acceptable
and what you don't. Then, communicate those
items
to your husband.