We went through the same thing almost a month ago, still reeling from it. My wife says the OM
is out of the picture, but the smoothness and skill that her deception revealed with lying blew me away. Not at all in character. Been together since age 15, we are now 55. We are doing self counseling with the framework of a program I downloaded. We are both committed to our success. I read a lot about making myself more interesting, too, and found nothing but room for improvement. I have been forcing myself to leave my comfort zone and to go all out for us. Things are getting very exciting now, in every way. We have badly conflicting schedules, and 5 nights a week I get only 4to6 hours of sleep. It is very worth it, to feel the inner glow of being able to be heart to heart again, better than ever. I truly feel for you and I send my blessing.