Dr. Haltzman,
Please help! I had an affiar with a woman I dated before I met my wife. This other woman, I have no feelings for and when I repeadtedly told this woman that we had to end this affiar, she went ballistic and brought everything out in the open. She told her husband... then her husband called my wife and told her.
Of course, I denied everything and lied over and over, until my wife had enough of my lies and BS. All of this happened around May and now we are nearing the finalization of the divorce. We have only been maried for 2.5 yrs and have a beautiful 1yr old baby. I never wanted to leave them, but now my wife is horrified by me.
She is a wonderful, talented, and classy woman and I can't even begin to explain myself why I did this. I don't care about this other woman.
I am just trying to survive everyday now, trying to figure out what it is that I have to do next, as my wife is being courted and as I only see my daughter maybe sometimes 2x a week.
I love my family, but I am just a outsider now.
Dr. Haltzman, I have been reading your book and becoming aware of my faults as a husband. I know I can make the changes and I am going to do them for myself and for the betterment of my daughter and my wife. I am seeing a counselor already, but all he tells me is to work on myself, don't do anything foolish, and to communicate more effectively. Like you have writen, men do not communicate like women, but I am trying in my own way. I am owning my mistakes and working to make progressons all the time.
My wife, she is a beautiful soul, kind, and tolerable of my BS. She would have given the world! How do I gain this woman back into my life? Forever.
Please help.