Hello,
This my first post in this community
First , let me start by saying English is not my native tong, but I'll try my best
I got he book of Dr Scott, secrets of married men because I'm trying to understand my infatuation with a women less than half my age.
First a bit about me and my marriage: I'm 49, happily ( I thought) married for 16 years, we have 2 great kids, 13 and 11, I have a stable job on big corporation, doing middle management, and the business is growing, financially doing ok , intimacy is great (1 to 3 times a week depending how we're feeling) , we're all healthy, so everything seems just fine.
My wife is accommodating to all my needs and desires, I can have all the time I want for myself, to spend on hobbies, friends or whatever I choose to do,
About she and I, we can talk , we can travel, we can go out,
she never makes a fuzz and I try not give her a reason to do it, I help with the kids and the house
I took photography as a hobby, in the process I met a young girl (22) she likes me to take photos of her, fashion stuff , all dressed, I show the photos to my wife, I met the girl a couple of times with the group of photographers, then she contacted me on line to do some 1 on 1 sessions, on the street, nice places in town, twice with a male friend of her helping out, we arrived separately and leave each one to their own business, so far so good ...
Trouble starts when we did a session just her and I, same kind of photos, but she and I alone,
after this I contacted her and ask her to eat a couple of times, she agreed , I gave her a ride to wherever she needed to go afterwards,
this I did not tell my wife, I know is not right, but I had a great time and felt elated, amazingly happy
She will send me messages and just keep reminding me of her, my brain is in overdrive, why me , a grown up man, can not stop this nonsense ?
I talked to a couple of male friends, one tells me: congratulations! you re alive! but do not tell your wife ... (not great help huh ? )
the other one tells me , stop it , it is not worth it
Searching on the internet I got Dr Scott's book, audiobook , I'm listening it (every men should know this stuff, not just married men)
I broke contact for a couple of days with the girl, than last night exchanged messages with her again, just chit chat, what did you do today, what did you eat, have a good night, irrelevant stuff but it brings her back to my mind
I'm realizing somehow my life is predictable, my wife seems predictable, she will agree to anything I suggest, ie: we have day off on Oct 12 I suggested we go somewhere for the long weekend, she said: Any where you like
We trust each other and we both give space to each other, we can each go out with friends, then come back home maybe 10pm at the latest , or eat dinner at home and perhaps spend a great time in bed
I met my wife at work, she quit to take care of the kids
Nowadays she is very much involved with activities at the kids schools,
she is involved in the administration of the community where we live,
she often helps her mother resolve trouble in her side of the family
She is studying french, we hope to go to france in the future
When we talk she often gets so involved in explaining troubles of someone else, all the intricacies, and reasons of someone else's trouble, and I loose interest , I can not fix someone else's trouble, why discuss as if it was a soap opera
She likes to travel with me when I go photograph something, and does not complain if get up at 4am in the morning to go shoot the stars, she will try to stay late with me when we went to the beach and I was shooting the sea at night, but got bored and went back to the room to watch TV
I guess I'm taking my wife for granted
I do not understand myself , I see my self going to the abyss and I kid myself with dreams of spending time with the girl,
I want to understand what is it that I experience with her that I'm not getting with my wife
Thanks if you made it this far, I'll appreciate any comments you may have