Hello
I have been married 26 years, have three kids, all out of the house. I was planning on reinvigorating my marriage, as the boys just moved out.
Here is my problem: my wife has developed a relationship with a married man over the Internet. His marriage has some serious problems, but now he wants to divorce his wife and marry mine. It seems his wife committed adultery about 18 years ago.
I've talked to my wife several times about this, but don't know what to do. She says she loves me but has no hope for ever being happy with me. She says that it is my fault, because I have not met her emotional needs over the years. She feels that this other guy is the only man to ever make her happy. When this first came up, I said I needed to move out, as I cannot live under these circumstances. She pleaded with me to stay, so I agreed. I am still at home. She is still in communication with this guy and is lying about it. All the usual things, deleted history, phone with a unknown password...
I believe they are also engaging in cybersex, as he lives in another state. The other guy is a pastor, and my wife says she is seeking God in this, but it sure doesn't look that way to me.
I have no idea what to do next. I have no intention of getting a divorce. I love her dearly, but it is quite a painful time right now.
Any advice on how to proceed!?
Thanks