Married for 10 years, one daughter and pregnant with our first.son.
We have seperated in the past due to infidality i forgave him amd he promised to never hurt me again.everything seemed fine until.this summer when he got a New.job. Everything seemed perfect, we were spending so much time together, we found out i was pregnant and he was so excited. 4/5 months into my pregnancy he started to act distant wantung to go out with his friends alot more. Since i was always so tired.from the pregnancy i didnt fight about it n let him hang out, then it started becoming a every weekend thing, he was always looking for.things to do with his friends leaving no time for me. There was 3 occasions where he didnt cone..home. He was to ”drunk” to drive home or didnt want to risk a dui. We began to argue alot more and with me being so emotional and hormonal i was no help. On several occasions i let my.hormones take over and threaten to kick him out but he always said he would never leave or he was just ignore me. The last straw for me was him lying about going to Work on a weekend night due to overtime for the holidays. I knew he wasent at Work because his Work boots n uniform were still in our closet. when he got home u was so upset, threw all his clothes out of our room n told him i was done. He then responded That he wanted a divorce n we were two different people, his excuse is That we dont have the same intrests. he ended up leaving the next day and we have been seperated for almost a 2 months. I love him and want it to Work but im tired of being hurt. He refuses to go to counseling, when we talk n i asl him where we stand he always answers like he is confused, he says we r different but then he is always calling me to see if me n our daughter are ok, he comes by to pick up our daughter and spends the day with us,, calls me babe, opens doors but then still brings up him wanting to pursue gettibg his own apartment or going out. I recently found out he has another cellphone That i didnt know about. he tells me over and over there is none else but his actions tell me otherwise. I dont know what to do. How did it all become my fault? Ive been so depressed where it seems like hes fine. should i give it time? I find myself not wanting to clear thkngs up because i dont want to hear him say he doesnt want to be with me. He says i did nothing wrong That im special and a good wife.. I dont get it