by elizacol » Thu May 31, 2007 8:48 pm
#1...you can't rush the process. She is going to need time to get over this and you need to give her that time. She deserves that.
#2...consistency in your actions. You need to be consistent in your reassurance. Your communication. Your amend making. Your love. Your apologies (yes...you may need to apologize more than 1x).
#3...you need to be totally transparent. Meaning, nothing is hidden. Not cell phone records, e-mails, your whereabouts, etc.
#4...you need to answer her questions with honesty. Let her talk to you. Keep the lines of communication open. Listen to her. Acknowledge her thoughts and feelings.
Now, having said that...she, too, has some responsibilities to uphold. But, since she's not here asking, I won't address those.