Dear All;
Lynne and I have been married 4 years now and we have a GREAT and loving relationship. We are both on our 4 each and feel after dating that we now know what we DON'T WANT in a relationship. We stopped looking for what we wanted and then it happened...WE MET!
I have some questions which we are sometimes at odds about and would greatly appreciate if anybody out there would be so kind as to offer either advise or answers to Please this is open to both men and women:
1) Lynne wants to hang with the girls once or twice a month and even at her age does the "SLUMBER PARTY" thing. I have no problems with this except there is one member even though very married and it is her turn decides she wants to hold the "LOOSEY-GOOSEY" slumber party beconning to the days when they were all single????? This is the kind of situation that invites trouble and problems.
2) My wife has on many occasions asked me and sometimes to the point of insistence, why I do not "HANG WITH GUYS" or participate in "GUYS NIGHT OUT". My answer is always the same: I am a guy and I know what that denotes. From days of old and when I was a single guy this meant hanging out and skirt chasing. Unfortunately it seems that it still means the same even after these men say " I DO"! I have been asked many times to go out with the guys and I choose not to because I have gone out with them and after a few drinks this is what the evening is all about.....I HAVE MY SKIRT AT HOME. Why is it that MEN cannot see this as my strong point and not my weakness?
3) This question is more for the men here however I also welcome insight from the Ladies. Why is it that MEN always feel when they are out (even if married) that they have the right to approach a table full of ladies and introduce themselves and after being told that they are all married and NOT interested these men insist on coming back over and over and hitting on the Ladies? I was out with my wife one evening and 2 of our very married Lady friends and I left the table for about fifteen minutes to take a business phone call. When I returned there were 2 guys hitting on the ladies including my wife. This was even after they had been told that these ladies were all married and not interested. Why is it that men feel that every women out there is for their personal entertainment and enjoyment EVEN after they have been told to back off? and even if these men are married? Whatever happened to RESPECT?
4) Why is it that when a woman says HI to a man even in Business that the first thought the man has is to take her to bed however when a man says HI it is always for business. When will men grow up and realize that women are humans and have feelings and are NOT just objects?
I am sorry however these are sometimes points of our discussions and Lynne is always telling me that she can take care of herself in any situation because she is 20 years US Navy Retired. What does that have to do with anything?
Any help or understanding would be greatly appreciated on these topics and we welcome suggestions and ideas from both men and women.
Thanks,
Dave and Lynne