by M&M » Fri Mar 07, 2008 12:34 pm
This is my first time to post something on a site but here goes. My wife and I have been married almost 24 years. We have 4 kids (4 to 14) and up a couple of years ago I thought we had a good marriage. In the past couple of years she has demonstrated changes in basic values that I thought she and I shared. She insists on wearing more revealing clothing, skimpy bikini's, and more flirtatious behavior behavior with other men in my presence or other wise. When I comment on her behavior she becomes enraged and says I am trying to control her. She told me she no longer loves me and is only staying with me because of the kids. She has sense told me she loves me but she has not wanted to change behavior. I love her dearly and I am struggling to know what to do next. Many friends, both her's, mine, and ours, have all told me that they do not understand why she has made such a change. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is, how much I love her, and try to make special time for her so she will be the absolute focus of all my attention. I know I have my share of faults and need to continue to improve in areas, which I readily admit to her, but how do I cope with the feelings of betrayal? I am open to all feedback. Just a guy who wants to make our marriage work.