by elizacol » Mon Sep 01, 2008 12:29 am
While what Thunderhorse said is true....
if you want a woman's perspective, here one is:
Some women view their spouse's watching pornography as
a form of cheating. Is that, perhaps, why your wife is so angry?
I know that before I viewed porn with my H, I used to feel inferior when
I found out he had done so without me....I couldn't begin to compare to the women on those movies. It made me angry that he would resort to that, when he had me (or if he were out of town, why he couldn't just wait until he got home, after all, I was at home, waiting for him!).
Many years later, and many conversations later, I think we've come to undertand one another. Men and women are so different. Trying to understand those differences is hard enough! Accepting them is a whole 'nother ball game.
Get to the bottom of why your wife is so angry, first of all. Is it because she feels inferior? Does she feel it is a form of cheating? What?
Then, reassure her in whatever ways she needs (see conversation above).
And, for the time being, lay off the movies. Part of marriage is respecting each other's feelings. Granted, she needs to do the same in return, but I'm only addressing what your post was about.