She had an emotional affair, why do i feel guilty?
Posted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 4:09 pm
My wife recently was emotionally involved with another man. They both said nothing physical happened but she told him she loved him. I thought our marriage was great but she told me we never communicated well.
About three years ago we were confessing to each other about things we had done in the past. The subject of masturbation came up and she admitted to doing it a few years previous. I admitted to doing it once when I was at the gym in a private bathroom that had a shower. She asked me if I was mad at her when I did that, and I said yes. We didn't really talk about this again for three years and she seemed happy in our marriage and I didn't think anything else about it. I thought we were just opening up to each other when we talked about it.
She has never said that this is the cause of our marriage problems. She said I was never there for her and we have communication problems. We are currently going to counseling and the M thing has never come up.
I am blaming myself for all my marriage problems and when I think about what I did I feel so guilty and ashamed like I am some sort of devaint.
Is this rational? Help, I feel horrible.
About three years ago we were confessing to each other about things we had done in the past. The subject of masturbation came up and she admitted to doing it a few years previous. I admitted to doing it once when I was at the gym in a private bathroom that had a shower. She asked me if I was mad at her when I did that, and I said yes. We didn't really talk about this again for three years and she seemed happy in our marriage and I didn't think anything else about it. I thought we were just opening up to each other when we talked about it.
She has never said that this is the cause of our marriage problems. She said I was never there for her and we have communication problems. We are currently going to counseling and the M thing has never come up.
I am blaming myself for all my marriage problems and when I think about what I did I feel so guilty and ashamed like I am some sort of devaint.
Is this rational? Help, I feel horrible.