I've seen many inappropriate emails and other communications between my husband and other women recently (in his inbox and dated back for the past three years - we've been married for 10). To make the story as short as possible... we've discussed what I found, that I should not have been in his stuff, that he should not have inappropriate interactions with women, etc. Fast forward to now... my gut has been working overtime, I could just sense something was going on... I fought to stay away from 'snooping' which I had stopped doing since the first time that I looked 9 months ago. I could tell through his elusiveness, lost interest in sex, evasiveness that something was up. Even though I knew better, I looked at his phone and voila....more TOTALLY inappropriate text and messages to a women at work. Drinks, coffee, lots of lunches, notes telling her how great she looks today, meeting when I am out town, etc. So, I am challenged at this point. I want my marriage to work, but I cannot admit that I went through his stuff again - as I promised I would not (and actually had not since it was discussed). BUT, he isn't keeping his promise either and I just don't want to sit here while this emotional (if not already physical) affair takes off. Clearly, we've lost trust in each other and I am not sure how we step forward. How do I stop this vicious cycle? Help!!
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