by psychstudent101 » Wed Nov 13, 2013 1:27 pm
Hi,
So you are having some temptations? New ideas are peaking your curiosity. Does this mean you have done something wrong? No.....well not yet hopefully.
Everyone becomes curious, its natural. Temptation follows everyone around. What you have to do is recognize what you have BEFORE you lose it. Most people don't realize how happy they were until after they have already lost. Temptation is normal, but marriage is about resisting temptation and staying loyal.
It is very normal for one to be curious about experiencing different things. Being curious is not immoral. But, you have to remember that by "trying new things," you are jeopardizing the happy, loving connection and relationship that you already have. Finding someone who makes you happy, who you are compatible with, and sexually satisfies your needs is not easy! Once you find someone like that, you already hit the jackpot. "Trying new things" may be different and peak your curiosity, but I don't believe you will find anything better than what you already have at the moment. Sex with someone else will satisfy your instant gratification, but it will hurt you and your significant other in the long run.
A good way to help stop temptations and lessen your curiosity, would be to take some helpful advice from Dr. Haltzman. My Psychology Professor informed us on many thoughts, views and tips of Dr. Haltzman. Dr. Haltzman says, "It is okay to have opposite sex friends, as long as they're friends of the marriage." What this means is basically that if you find yourself hanging around with females that you consider "trying new things" with, you should probably put some space between the two of you. Also, you made a commitment to your wife, therefor if she feels that one of your lady friends is threatening the marriage, then you should be understanding. This will help in your situation because if you lay low from any females who oppose or threaten your relationship, you wont be as tempted. This will also keep your wife happy if she knows that your female friends are also friends of her.
You may always be curious, but you have to ask yourself, "is it really worth it?" If you already have great sex, why bother looking. You may jeopardize your marriage with one or two girls who don't even satisfy you the way that your wife does. I think you should just fight the temptations and stay loyal to your wife. Be lucky to have someone who loves and understands you; dont throw it all the way for mediocracy.