infidelitysucks wrote:. Why does he keep receiving and forwarding pictures of spread eagle pornography!
It hurts so bad but he doesn't care about my feelings enough to stop. What am I supposed to do? I already told him how I feel! What more can I do?
Your husband's texting porn, and unsuccessfully trying to keep the texting secret, is hurtful to you.
You have confronted your husband and let him know your feelings of betrayal.
You feel that you have no options available to encourage your husband to stop hurtful enjoyment of porn, and no options to reduce the hurt you feel from his porn texting.
The feeling of hopelessness may be one aspect of the problem.
The problem may be difficult for you and your husband to find solutions. Progress may take some attempts that will not give the full results you seek.
The options to approach solutions that may come to mind probably seem too difficult, or having too little chance of success.
I suggest a start of listing out options for approaching change, and listing the difficulties with each option. Then others may give insight into making varous options work, or for additonal options to list, for more full empowerment.
Part of the problem is that there is a deep seated culture of secrecy involving men and porn, so since men feel they are doing it secretly, they are being considerate of their wives.
One of the problems with Crime and Punishment, is that if a criminal plans to never get caught, then severe or moderate punishment is irrelevant
Since many men are successful in keeping porn secret from their wives and girl friends, there are few women who actually know how to help solve the hurt from porn. "Well, I am SURE that MY husband would never disresepect ME with porn!!!"
Making Love and giving your husband satisfaction of his visual drive for visions of nude women, is something women ofen misunderstand. My wife almost always comes to bed with comfortable, liesure clothes on. I have read that some wives come to bed naked, almost regularly. It makes a big difference to me, the sooner I am able to persuade my wife to adjust household temperatures comfortable for nudity, and to remove her clothes.
There is a body of literature that seeks to explain the differences between men's and women's views on nudity, and porn. I have read your other posts, but I don't see that you have reviewed the latest research, and theories, of the male drive for visual images of sensuality.
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