Dear Thunderhorse,
She doesn’t have a “more objectionable“ reaction to porn than most women. It is PORNOGRAPHY. Her husband’s behavior is hurting her and it is making her physically ill. She does not need to ‘explore her feelings’ as to why it bothers her. Her husband needs to explore his feelings as to why he continues this behavior despite her objection.
I don’t think telling your friends to stop texting you porn is ‘rejecting people who may have helped you out in the past’. I think he would be setting a good example as a husband & friend in rejecting this adolescent behavior. Who cares how you bonded with your friends when you were young. If you met your friends while smoking pot in college, does that mean you should still smoke pot in your thirties or forties when you are with them? I don’t think so.
If a couple enjoys porn together within their marriage, that is a personal choice, but there is no place for unwanted pornography within an intimate relationship. InfidelitySucks is totally right in asking her husband to stop forwarding these text (did I mention it makes her physically ill and cry at night?). She feels betrayed, disgusted and sexually turned off. Her objectionable reaction to porn is perfectly normal.
Social Distortion
PS- Dear InfidelitySucks, you are right and your husband is wrong. Indeed he does not need to forward these messages, that is just encouraging this type of behavior. I believe if he told his friends ‘he is getting a hard time at home’ from these messages and stop reacting to them in any way the texts would eventually stop. You do not have to compromise on this one.