Incantations for Fidelity

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Fidelity may be the opposite of Infidelity, the topic of this section.

Fidelity is presumed, and Infidelity is a problem.

Perhaps Fidelity is achieved by religion, or magic.

To operationalize religion or Magic, incantations are often used.

What are the steps to creating the the religous protective aura, or magic spell, that enables a spouse to avoid temptations?

Are there spell-breakers to look out for?

What phrases or concepts militate against fidelity, and cultivate a climate, ripe for infidelity?

When a friend suggests that some steps are OK, that could lead to and Emotional or actual affair, is there a rebuttal that might be important?

What are the first, or prelinary steps toward infidelity?

Can infidelity occur, if the first steps are not taken?

Where is the limit for each of us?

Are there stages of steps toward infidelity?

Are there signals we should countradict, to avoid leadig into an actual or emotional affair?








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[ThunderHorse]

Friends can be enabelers, for steps toward infidelity.

Our friends can pull our coats, to suggest avoiding steps toward infidelity.

In seeking to be a good friend, we often offer confidentiality, as a trusted friend and confidant. Secrecy is often one aspect of infidelity.

Sometimes friends seek to give us support for our ideas. Sometimes friends seek information, by which a bond can be formed, and strengthened, that will enable a friend to ask us for a bigger favor, becuase he knows more items we are trying to keep secret.

One incantation for Fidelity might be to let our friends know that we are avoiding taking any steps toward infidelity. Friendhsip based on our firends keeping more of our secrets, may not be friends upon whom WE can count. So we might have better relations with our friend, if we avoid unnecessary secrets we need them to keep, or actively cover up.

Sometimes friends may let us know that they are taking steps toward an Emtoitnal or Actual affair. There could be a temtation to assist a friend in his ideas, by agreeing that some steps toward infidelity are a good conquest. The friend may then further confide in us, more steps toward infidelity. It may be tempting to regard this increasing bond with the adulterer, as a good friend, someone whom we can ask for more favors.

It may be that by agreeing to accept confidential information about steps toward infidelity, from a friend, that we are missing an opportunity to invoke an incantation in support of Fidelity. Infidelity can be viewed as acceptable, or unacceptable, by the community. Social Deterrence is an obscure concept, but by accepting confidences about steps toward infidelity, we are eroding the community support for fidelity.

One option may be to find a private moment with the friend, and ask the friend to avoid mentioning any steps toward infidelity the friend might be taking. Maybe because we don't want to be burdened with having to remember all the details necessary to avoid disclosure to others, that might be considered a breach of confidence. Perhaps that we wish to be a freind not based on keeping secrets, but on support of community values, and widely accepted religious principles of faithfulness in marriage. There are probably a lot of other reasons to avoid supporting infidelity.





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