DR SCOTT please help.

[infidelitysucks]

I need an answer. I have tried the obvious. I just don't know what to do and my heart is breaking.

My husband and his friends and coworkers send xxx-rated images to each other on cell phones.

I feel this is a betrayal equal to cheating. It is not right for my husband to look at porn or forward it to friends. I feel by forwarding or commenting back "Nice!" (or other mssgs) he is disrespecting me and our marriage and encouraging others to do the same.

It really really hurts me. What is more private, personal and sacred than sex? This should be saved for us.

I have explained my feelings and asked him to stop. He just won't.

I feel -obviously- like my feelings mean nothing to him.

It hurts so so badly. What do I do?

[sussana]

That is EXACTLY what I am going through!
I have been dealing with this for a long time and it isn't getting better.
Well, it got better for him when I stopped saying anything about it.
But why should I have to accept it?
This is degrading to me if I just accept it.
What is this the 1950's where women can't stand up for a little r.e.s.p.e.c.t.?
I have been seeing lots of this around the net.
So many men are doing this and so many wives and girlfriends are hurting so much.
It's actually very sad.
I used to have a girlfriend to talk to about this -actually her husband was one of the culprits.
It was sort of nice I didn't have to feel the humiliation of my husband sending her husband porn- we were both in it together.
But then she and her other girlfriends got drunk with my husband one night and he stayed with them at a hotel.
About that, I'd bet 50¢ of my last dollar her sister was making a play for my husband -or the other way around. I hope not.
Needless to say, we aren't friends.
So now i have no one to talk to about this very humiliating embarrassing thing my husband is doing that disrespects me in his circle of friends.