A_warrior wrote:A Porn-free world would be Heaven -- exactly just that. We all have our personal preferences, but I do believe that unlimited and unmonitored porn was never meant to happen to the world, from a Christian perspective. Does anyone think we are getting less molestation and rape cases because the perps went online and relieved themselves via the porn sites and then were so satisfied they had no reason to commit a crime? If you read, the truth is exactly the opposite. Sex crimes are ever-increasing.
While the Internet has done many, many wonderful things for business and personal communications, it has also done very nasty things by bringing porn into everyone's living room. Let alone bringing sexual predators into your child's bedroom, Hackers in your files, etc... I use it for plain communication or research; however, my communications don't involve pictures of 'Naked Anything'. LOL. Where has the intelligent society gone?
Firstly, I will address this quote, and then I will give my 2 cents.
You mention sexual predators when you talk about pornography, and I'm afraid that is very... imprecise. Most evidence points to the motive for sexual crimes being more closely tied with the rapists need to control or dominate, and that most have little to do with sexual attraction at all. On the issue of child pornography, do you think that people become pedophiles because of it, or does it exist because of the perversion? There is usually bad in any aspect of life, internet or no. I do agree with you (the part I didn't quote) that it is your responsibility to set guidelines for your household. If your children are getting internet porn at your home, you have failed to educate yourself about it enough to monitor their browsing. I t would probably be better to explain to them that it does exist, and that you prefer that it isn't a part of your household for whatever reasons you plan to enforce. At least then the first they will hear about it will be from you.
ahem,
having had some problems with internet porn myself, I can assure you of at least three things gleaned from my experience.
1) While pornography has nothing to do with love at all, the siren's song of being stimulated in the way that you want without judgment, hassle, or readily apparent consequences is real. (You'll note that I said "stimulation" and not so much release. porn will help you get there, but it can never take you on its own.)
2) You should discuss with your significant other about pornography's role. for alot of single males, it is the norm, and not some kooky addiction. it is up to you to tackle the problem now that it is here.
3) Porn DOES NOT lead to cheating. If there's infidelity, it is because of something else. If the naked female form tied into all the world's problems so basically, alot of art would also be suspect. That DOES NOT rule out pornography as a symptom of a less than pleased husband, however.
In summary, pornography is a subject that needs to be discussed when it arises, but is not necessarily indicative of cheating. I know about emotional infidelity, but that is the same thing. Cheaters cheat because they are cheaters. Trying to tie that to some outside entity is irresponsible because it takes away accountability from the offender. There are plenty of men who have hellish marriages and never cheat. Just like there are plenty of men who don't get to have sex much that don't rape women.