by peacekeeper34 » Mon Nov 21, 2011 7:40 pm
Padric, to repent and forgive your wife for the wrongful action would be the up most peaceful way to come around your anxiety. She with the guilt felt, can't act how she felt when things were going well because she feels that the forgiveness from you isn't there. I know from past experience that it is a shell shock, an awe when they hear the words " I forgive you, but as it may be let it be a lesson learned that there isn't any other guy who would own up to forgiveness and want to still be fully committed like yourself." In sense, she will be open up and blown away at your ability to take a downfall but see the better good in it and learn to build a stronger bound between each other. I'm very forgiving with my fiancé, without proper guidance from man being soft instead of always tough and hard to get emotions out of won't make a relationship bound strong. Yes men where procreated to take up the labor and physical prowl that god laid before the human population, but what every woman wants, looks truly in is a man to have a wonderful mental vocabulary (sort of speak) of emotions to spark and share with her, to enlighten her, comfort, to see feelings that correspond to hers, and warmth. Anxiety is felt for a long time, as I felt, but should never be taken out on her or shown to her, build a tolerant to it and overcome it with the security of her words spoken, trust in her and show her you do. Women need to feel that comfort of trust and faith, she made that choice in an affair but what are we to quickly react on negative emotions and give up on that one we worked so hard with all the years to build all that love, happiness and feelings with? That is always the downfall of our manly aggressions, we never think; our judgments become clouded as fast as a raging storm. the biggest concern you need to focus on is how to love the woman you fell head over heels with the way she has always desired it. Our sacrifices are so much more worth it than making women sacrifice their own when it is up to us to make them feel loved. Always give your undivided love, listening, romantic ways, no regrets, and never doubt her no matter how hard the action or what it was. Dr. Scott states that "Men don't always solve problems the same way as women. Men can apply the same commitment and devotion to their marriage as they do other aspects of their lives (work or sports, for instance). When they take the positive approach, they are able to formulate a plan to meet their goals, and they enjoy richer and better marriages." Men should always initiate the first verbal words in communication, women love when you beat them to saying I love you, good morning, good night, and so on so forth. Do not ever stop going out of your way for her, she wants to feel most important and should always be most important to you. All I know from my understanding and being in a relationship so long is that there should never be a moment to rush anything, love isn’t something to take lightly; it changes its ways daily without noticing it. Brining your marriage back won’t be the easiest thing, however make her happy by whatever means possible, a relationship should never be run by intimacy, but passion and love. Women are meant to be loved not figured out, if they were figured out then men wouldn’t be a constant change to always suit her needs and be everything that they wanted.