I think my husband is having an emotional affair. He thinks the very term "emotional affair" and concept of such is baloney.
Okay, I feel like a very old fashioned wife but I guess that's what I am. My husband and I have been married nearly 18 years. We are both disabled. He and I both joined Facebook individually a year and a half ago. This is my problem: I do not myself talk with guys! I feel like that's a big no-no in a marriage, to talk with someone of the opposite sex. My husband, though, rediscovered friendships from 30 years ago, 98% of them are all women. They are all married themselves. But, back in the day, he had all female friends, very few male. And most of these women, no problem. But one in particular, sends and receives texts and phone calls to and from my husband, constantly, and I just cannot stand it. I tried talking with my husband, who is completely puzzled by my reaction. And then he became very defensive. He would not like it if I were doing what he is doing. He went to a 30-yr class reunion, insisting that I was not welcome to come along. That hurt me very very deeply and he knew it and still went alone. I tried talking to the woman. She insists she is just a friend, that she and my husband just talk, he vents and talks and they help each other through problems and things. It got so it bothered me badly because my husband stopped letting me use his phone virtually overnight, keeps it on his person literally 24/7, and I grew even more distrustful.
I confronted the woman and said "look, I think he is developing a fixation on you" and she agreed to back off. He made it 3 days in to her not sending messages or phone calls and literally was in tears for 2 days after that and begged me to become friends with her and let him have his friendships. It killed me but I did just that. I just have a terrible feeling toward her, and I have tried to like her, but I just don't, and I don't like how he has been almost literally from the day he joined Facebook.
I have told her, and him, all of this, but it has changed absolutely nothing and I have been the one to be told to basically get over it. I feel stepped on and disrepected. This has been going on since October 2009 and I cannot let it go. Help, please, someone...