Hey guys need some opinions here!!!!!! I am 32 been married for 8yrs, we had a rough start due to my past relationship. I was beaten & cheated on. I have had a hard time with my insecurities, trusting him & believing I was worth loving.
We have been doing very well for the past 3-4 years. Of course we had bumps in the road due to jealousy on my end.
Anyways, here is the scenario:
we had friends over we were all sittin round watchin a movie & havin a couple beers.
My husband works with this young lady that they know.
Well the guys got to talkin about this lady my husband works with. My husband was goin on about her,, being a b**** and says she nags & complains about everything. And says "the only good benefit to working with her is because she has a nice ass."
now I like her but she is a slut. And honestly I would not trust her if she was alone with my husband. Because we had a party last summer & I am just standin there talkin to some guy friends she walks up pushes me against the car & starts kissin me. Well my husband informs me a few days later he doesn't know if he can work with her anymore. He says when he went to work that, he couldn't look or talk to her cuz it made him hard.
She is going thru a divorce right now, she has cheated on her husband before &is cheating on him now with a good friend of ours who works with them as well!!!! And I have also witnessed her flirting with my husband. Plus I have seen the way she acts in the bar, she hangs all over other men & makes out with them etc.
I ain't as jealous as I used to be but when it comes to her I admit I am cuz of things that have happend & things he has said like the "hard" thing. And just things I know about her.
I am really hurt & embarrassed actually humiliated!!!
When I tried to call him out on it in front of them he gets all sh*tty actin!!!!! Tells me to shut the f*** up!!!!
Actually my husband doesn't or hasn't spoken to me in this manner before. I don't know where it came from.
I have given him the silent treatment since this happened.
He called today & ask me what was wrong & I told him. "things you said saturday" of course he had no idea what it could be!!!! But tells me I shouldn't be mad, starts gettin crappy
he says it is my problem. Well, I just responded, no it is your problem so think about it & hung up the phone on him!!
I know he looks & I sometimes I point out a hot chicks to him & I make comments & sometimes he agrees.
Guys please gimme some opinions here am I wrong to be hurt & mad?? Is this my problem???
And tell why is it married men feel the need to look?
I personally believe if you are truly happy & fully commited to your spouse, you shouldn't have the need to look.
Am I wrong on this??