Pornography is not okay when your spouse disapproves

Pornography is not okay when your spouse disapproves

Postby charlie.d » Sat Jun 11, 2011 12:55 am

Pornography is not okay when your spouse disapproves.

I have been reading about men and women viewing porn on the internet, email and text. There is a simple answer. Your spouse comes first. Many people admit they use porn themselves, try to downplay the persons objection to the pornography. I guess they have the right to approve porn if it helps them justify their own action. They are flat wrong for downplaing someone else's view of it.

The old, 'men and women are wired different is pretty bad too'. It's a cop out as old as time. If one can be loyal so can the other. Frankly, men ought to take offense to the notion that that just can't control themselves. Just goes to show how many aholes are out there that no one argues the point anymore.

One mentioned that it isn't the porn that bothers them, but the lies and secrecy. That's it. That's what I get from reading every post on the subject. Most, mostly women, say they have told the spouse it bothers them and the spouse continues the act. It is a betrayal of marriage.

I even read one poster respond, you can't expect men to stop acting like men just because they get married." As a married man this was actually offensive. I am certain they don't want that at all. They expect them to stop acting like SINGLE men. The world is full of beautiful women who have settled down with one lucky bastard who doesn't deserve her. In doing so, she also gave up every hard 20-something willing to giver the old stiff one any time of day.

The point being, when you take a vow of marriage, you DO as one writer said, promise to forsake all others. If this means you give up porn, so be it. You probably didn't marry a porn star -maybe you should have. But you didn't. If your wife is willing to sleep with you, you are the luckiest man in the world. So you should make her happy. Find another interest besides porn.

Before anyone starts in with, 'Why should I change?' let me say, dummy- marriage is not just about you. But better than that, she might not have married you in the first place had she known this would be an issue right now. So get off the porn and on your spouse and be grateful you still have one.
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Re: Pornography is not okay when your spouse disapproves

Postby bambibell » Tue Feb 26, 2013 12:39 pm

Right on to you!
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Re: Pornography is not okay when your spouse disapproves

Postby bluffy » Thu May 09, 2013 12:36 am

I even read one poster respond, you can't expect men to stop acting like men just because they get married." As a married man this was actually offensive. I am certain they don't want that at all. They expect them to stop acting like SINGLE men. The world is full of beautiful women who have settled down with one lucky bastard who doesn't deserve her. In doing so, she also gave up every hard 20-something willing to giver the old stiff one any time of day.

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