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Your Kids

PostPosted: Mon Jun 27, 2011 8:07 am
by RWeber108
Just to share some of my story:

I have made a few posts, some reflecting my own personal struggles with trust in my marriage. I know that my trust issues are exactly that - my issues. My husband is a good man. This is why I have these struggles.

My parents are divorced. They divorced when I was 7. When I was 13, my mom "let it slip" that they split because of my father's infidelities. Plural. I have serious trust issues because of this. He shouldn't have done it and she shouldn't have told me. My own background is creating a problem in my marriage. The first man I ever trusted (Dad) was a man who cheated on his wife.

The reason I am posting this is just some free advice to everyone who is struggling with any sort of infidelity issues. It is not about you. It isn't about your spouse, either. Unless you are just a married couple, not a family. Your kids are more important than your secret desires or weaknesses or temptations. If you want to sleep with someone else - end your marriage, don't cheat. Or at least look inside and figure out where those feelings are coming from. IT WILL AFFECT YOUR KIDS. Also, kids will find out what happened. Maybe not yet, but someday. They aren't stupid.

For them, if not for your partner, think twice. Kids need a family. And if you can't work it out, which happens, end your relationship respectfully. It will be so much better for them in the long run. My sister has the same trust issues I do. My brother refuses to ever get married.

Ok, I am off my soapbox. Just some advice nobody asked for. =)