Well for a little background information.
Me and my partner have been together for 6 years we have 3 children together and are in our late 20s. I believe she cheated on me and would like some opinions about it.
Well to start, i hate technology now. Facebook has ruined my relationship. My partner about 6 months ago accepted a friend request from a guy whom she said was her friends older brother. Less than 5 seconds later he messaged here back apologizing for hurting her a long time ago. No problem with what he said, but there is a problem that she lied about him. Especially since they dated 6 years before i even knew her.
Eventually i found out that for 3 months she was talking to him on a regular basis. She would tell him about our relationship and what was troubling her. I consider that an emotional affair. Yet that is the easiest part of this to deal with. A month after finding out she was talking to him regularly, i seen her texting on her phone and smiling and giggling. I didnt say anything about it but waited until she slept and checked her messages. I found messages saying she wanted to go to sleep with him that night and that she wanted to have sex with him.
That tore me apart. We talked about it and decided that we both had to change things to be happy with each other. I did my best and changed or stopped alot of things that bothered her. To this day she hasnt changed whatsoever. She still talks to this guy all the time. She hangs out with him. And when i told her it bothered me and it hurt me alot she dumped me!!.
Her reason is she needs time to "find herself". What does that even mean? We have 3 kids together and i just feel she treats me soo bad. She ignores me when i try to talk to her about anything, it doesnt matter the subject. She doesnt talk to me about anything that hurts me but yet says she knows she was wrong. I dont know about other people but if i feel im wrong i would talk to you if it hurt you. She doesnt see it that way, she just doesnt wanna hear it. Well anyways, we seperated 3 days ago and yet still talking to this guy that i know she has feelings for and wont admit.
She's telling me that i should let her go and let her have some space to feel better about our relationship. I understand that but at the same time im so scared she's going to have a relationship that goes beyond friendship with the guy that irks me to my very core. If she actually talked to me id feel better. basically im certain she will be unfaithful but at the same time tell me to wait for her...
What do you think i should do. I am still young so i could wait or move on and be fine just emotionally torn. I feel like she's my air, my sun, everything to me. And ive always been family oriented. Its killing me to split up my kids. I just want my family back. But at the same time ive been hurt alot by things she does and the things i see.
Please help me.
Confused by love