My husband and I have known eachother for almost 10 years and we're about to reach our first anneversary. My husband has always had female friends and I've only had a problem with one because she tried to turn us against eachother and we talked it out well and got it resolved quickly by coming to the mutual decision to cutting her out of our lives.
He has also had this other female friend for almost as long as he's known me. I didn't have a problem with her at all untill I saw that she called him "babe". Although it bothered me I shrugged it off as just something that you might just accidentally call a friend. Then one day I noticed that she called him before he left for work one morning (5:30 a.m.) and he said he had to go but would text her through the day. She then called him right after he got home for just a few minutes they texted all night and then she called him again right before we went to bed and he walked out of the room. What could they have to talk about that I can't hear? He's never done this before.
I had tried to talk to him about it but he gets deffensive and just tells me I should trust him which isn't what happened when he had a problem with the other friend. I then talked to my sister in law about this and she told this girl to just please stop talking to my husband. My husbands friend then got very upset that this had been requested of her and went on a huge rant to my husband asking why. To which my husbands reply was "Do you want to have sex with me?" and she said "No, if that were going to happen it would have happened 5 years ago." They then went on with the conversation like nothing had happened.
I'm not a jelous person I just don't understand why the two of them are acting this way. If there's nothing going on then why is my husband so defensive, and why are they all of a sudden talking so much?
Please help me. If it's no big deal then I can leave it alone but if not I need to know how to deal with it.