I have been together with my wife for a total of 7 years, and married for 2 years. We have always been very happy and it showed in every facet of our relationship. We are very sexual and have had a very open healthy sexual relationship. Throughout the years we would roleplay and talk about sexual fantasies during sex. Many of those fantasies always related to my desire of seeing her with another woman and the thought of a threesome with another woman. After marriage, we continued our usual sexual fantasies. We are known amongst our friends as the couple who is very easy going and would talk about any subject without hesitation. My wife is extremely beautiful and I love her very much. But, 2 weeks ago we went on a weekend and met up with another couple friends of ours. The female in the other relationship is very attractive and sensual. My wife during sex mentioned that if she ever would consider being with another woman it would be her. I was very aroused by that idea and like any other man was very turned on but I never thought it would ever happen. She mentioned that for her to consider doing it it would have to be with someone she trusted and could feel comfortable and share things in common with. Knowing the other girl, I know why she would say this, they are identical people, they share the same likes and dislikes. (Now, let me give you some understanding of the other couple, they have 3somes with other woman atleast 2-3 times a year but the rule for them is that they must share the women together or otherwise is not allowed, this is done very secretive and people have no clue of this.)
Two days later back in our hometown, they met at a restaurant and as I was explained by my wife, they began flirting and exchanging touches under the table. This is all happening meanwhile the boyfriend of the other girl is at the opposite side of the table and couldn't see what was happening. The girls then went to the car outside and proceeded to have very passionate sex. This was the first time my wife was with anyone else in the past 7 years, the first time she was sexual with a woman. It lasted for a period of 15-20 minutes and once finished they left. The boyfriend was inside the restaurant and had an idea of what was happening but didn't partake in the sexual act.
My wife calls me the next day and explains that there is something she must tell me, it seemed urgent. She explains to me what happened. The initial thoughts were very mixed, I was enraged, confused, to a certain extent even "turned on". Needless to say, this was a shocker because I never expected her to do it but most shockingly to find out she did it behind my back was what hurt the most. I saw it as a fantasy that had been visualized by both but only acted by one. She explained to me that it felt very natural and that she would have never thought about being with anyone else besides this woman. I know my wife, and I know she pressed for this to happen. I was feeling very confused as she arrived home, we sat and talked about what happened in detail. I remember thinking, "who is this person"? But the conversation turned into wether or not she would want to do it again. She began explaining to me how passionate it felt and how it was like puppy love, a carnal desire to be with someone and only that person, this made me very sad, but I kept listening. My wife said she would want to do it again. The next day the girl called and she expressed concerns about ME and the fact that we were married. I come to find out that during the very early stages of it happening the girl ask, "is it ok with your husband for you to do this", she responded, "yes, he wants me to." She based this on our fantasies and the times we were role-playing.
What hurts the most is that I trusted my wife blindly. We had an amazing lifestyle and we had no worries in our hearts. For me, this has changed. I feel I cant trust her. I feel that she thinks of her as she is with me and wants to be with her so much it would be classified as an obsession. I am at a crossroads in my life... I am 26 years old, No kids, educated and very successful at what I do. We traveled the world together and I thought I would die alongside this woman. As I write this letter I feel so broken, my heart is being pulled in many directions. I need help!!!!!!
Thanks