Therapy is frustrating me
Posted: Thu Jan 26, 2006 9:32 am
My wife had about a two year affair (sexual and emotional) with a friend. We are in Therapy, but the therapist is totally focused on making the marriage work. I need to get out, because in my heart I cannot make it work, and the affair is causing me to slowly self destruct. I really need to save myself first.
Therapy has made me realize that I do not love her any more, and I really want to go off on my own, heal, and start fresh.
The focus on fixing things is emboldening my wife to diligently pursue reconciliation. This is making it hard for me to end the marriage, and for her to realize that it won't work. She is calling me selfish for wanting to leave.
At what point is a therapist supposed to recognize when one party is at the end of their rope? Or, is the therapist supposed to doggedly pursue reconciliation?
Edit - we are in therapy together. Though I have a solo session coming up.
Therapy has made me realize that I do not love her any more, and I really want to go off on my own, heal, and start fresh.
The focus on fixing things is emboldening my wife to diligently pursue reconciliation. This is making it hard for me to end the marriage, and for her to realize that it won't work. She is calling me selfish for wanting to leave.
At what point is a therapist supposed to recognize when one party is at the end of their rope? Or, is the therapist supposed to doggedly pursue reconciliation?
Edit - we are in therapy together. Though I have a solo session coming up.