Need To Be Cherished & Adored
Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2008 1:04 pm
Obviously the title says it all. My wife and I have been married 15 years. We have had our share of ups and downs. However, the last 4 years have been fantastic. I love her more today than when we first married. As each year goes by she becomes more and more attractive. Our frequency of sex, as I understand it, is way above national averages. I shower her with affection. I tell her how beautiful she is. I remind her of how lucky I am to have her in my life and the wonderful family we have created.
My wife is neither cold, bitchy nor distant. But she is no longer demonstrative. Whereas I like to cuddle, she can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning. Whereas I love to caress her and be caressed, she hates it. Whereas I would like to kiss more frequently she does not seem to have a need for this.
Years ago I brought up the subject of her showing me a bit more attention. She agreed that with all that we have going on she forgets and assured me that she will be more responsive to me.
After a few months we were right back to square one. I re introduced the subject and was met with the same reply. After a few months we were right back to square one. Now if I bring it up she immediately gets defensive and asks ‘why am I always the bad one’ etc. etc. etc.
If she adores me I have no way of knowing it. If she cherishes me, likewise I have no idea.
Final clue to the puzzle: she grew up in a home where there was no kissing, no holding and no touching. However, when we met and into our first years of marriage, she initiated all of the items just mentioned.
My wife is neither cold, bitchy nor distant. But she is no longer demonstrative. Whereas I like to cuddle, she can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning. Whereas I love to caress her and be caressed, she hates it. Whereas I would like to kiss more frequently she does not seem to have a need for this.
Years ago I brought up the subject of her showing me a bit more attention. She agreed that with all that we have going on she forgets and assured me that she will be more responsive to me.
After a few months we were right back to square one. I re introduced the subject and was met with the same reply. After a few months we were right back to square one. Now if I bring it up she immediately gets defensive and asks ‘why am I always the bad one’ etc. etc. etc.
If she adores me I have no way of knowing it. If she cherishes me, likewise I have no idea.
Final clue to the puzzle: she grew up in a home where there was no kissing, no holding and no touching. However, when we met and into our first years of marriage, she initiated all of the items just mentioned.