Completely Lost!
Posted: Sat Jan 24, 2009 8:23 pm
Hi Everyone,
I'm new here and this is my first time in posting.
I have a bundle of questions I would like answered if it is at all possible, but they really all fall into one question, which is why is there so many lies out there telling us men how to act and behave in the home to keep the wife happy, when there is little to nothing out there suggesting what women should do to help keep their husbands happy that is not centred on being a benefit to the woman or does not involve trying to effeminise their husband?
Women are given far too much credence in this world today and it all seems like every man out there is either an abusive thug, a child abuser, a drunk whose only interested is in sex, sport and his friends, or all of the above. Yet all we ever hear is that women are incapable of all of the above and they are so morally innocent.
Somebody please hand me a bucket!
Then all we ever hear is how these rotten men only ever think with their private parts and not with their brains.
What an insulting thing to say!
No man would ever get away with describing a woman like that, yet men are described like that in all the gutter shows on TV and at the movies.
Then there is the common complaint women have that men are so untrustworthy in marriage because they are the ones who usually play around and women rarely play around.
Well, if that is true and the men are not queer, then please tell me who the men are actually playing around with?
If you can't guess, then I suppose I will have to tell you.
Yep, they are playing around with Women. Yes, the humans who would never do that sort of thing are the ones men are playing around with.
That will be a big shock to the feminists in society, they will never admit to that!
By now you have probably guessed that I am bitter and you probably think I am very angry. Well, I am bitter yes, but not angry at all. I have lived and survived through two marriages to two sick abusive women, who not only abused me but our children as well. I have moved on and matured emotionally to the point that I am very happy in my own skin and have finally accepted that it is not my fault and that I did my best.
Both these women were abused as children; one by her father the other by her mother.
I did all the stupid things that are suggested on this website and other websites and also in the media, that a man should do to keep his wife happy. All I got back was more hatred and abuse.
Some idiot said that if the man helped out around with the wife's housework, then he is likely to have a better marriage and his wife might be more romantic.
Well, I'm here to tell you that this is a lie. These women just use you up and get lazier and guess what, there is even less romance than before.
Please tell me, why should I do housework when I am doing about 60 hrs a week at work, doing all the outside work at home plus helping out others and the wife is not working for money. She is at home full time looking after one child and has little housework to do, yet she expected me to do some as well.
As it turned out, I was raised by wonderful parents and we had a big family, this taught me how to work inside and out of the home. After my parents were through teaching me, I am now able to do just about everything I need to run a household and care for children. I can even iron clothes better than most women I have ever met and can teach my daughter the basics of using a sewing machine.
Not bad hey!
This last marriage that ended in 2006 saw the birth of 4 children. For almost the whole of the marriage, this lazy good for nothing abusive woman never cleaned the toilet, bathroom or laundry. I did it for 13 years out of the 15 year marriage. I did all the work outside, plus help with children and the story just goes on and on.
Now I am on my own without a woman, I now have the two eldest living with me 100% and the two youngest 50% and it is only a matter of time before I get another one. I am disabled because of a bad pain condition that originated from two too many whiplash injuries from motor vehicle accidents and from being abused by wives and driven to the point where stress was going to kill me, but didn't.
My problem today is, that one day I will want to have another relationship and I am totally lost as to how on earth am I to behave or treat this next woman.
I did all I could with two marriages and I did not force my views or my help on these women, I simply followed their lead and filled in the gaps, but still I was used and abused. I loved them unconditionally and accepted who and what they were, yet both abused me until they had disrespected me so much that they had to leave. They used lies and false allegations to get court orders and to try and destroy me totally.
I have survived, thanks be to God!!!!!!!!
So, how do I have another relationship with a woman, when in general western Caucasian women are actually quite lazy and very arrogant in that they expect to be feted all the time and to have a husband who will be like a servant to them.
This is not something I will ever do again, because no woman on this earth is worth that much pain.
So, please can someone give me, a cynical and badly battle scared man, some idea as to whether there are any REAL SINCERE women out there and how I should treat them if for some miracle I actually meet one?
Also, how do you pick a good woman from an abusive thug!!!
Thanks for your help and sorry about the length.
I'm new here and this is my first time in posting.
I have a bundle of questions I would like answered if it is at all possible, but they really all fall into one question, which is why is there so many lies out there telling us men how to act and behave in the home to keep the wife happy, when there is little to nothing out there suggesting what women should do to help keep their husbands happy that is not centred on being a benefit to the woman or does not involve trying to effeminise their husband?
Women are given far too much credence in this world today and it all seems like every man out there is either an abusive thug, a child abuser, a drunk whose only interested is in sex, sport and his friends, or all of the above. Yet all we ever hear is that women are incapable of all of the above and they are so morally innocent.
Somebody please hand me a bucket!
Then all we ever hear is how these rotten men only ever think with their private parts and not with their brains.
What an insulting thing to say!
No man would ever get away with describing a woman like that, yet men are described like that in all the gutter shows on TV and at the movies.
Then there is the common complaint women have that men are so untrustworthy in marriage because they are the ones who usually play around and women rarely play around.
Well, if that is true and the men are not queer, then please tell me who the men are actually playing around with?
If you can't guess, then I suppose I will have to tell you.
Yep, they are playing around with Women. Yes, the humans who would never do that sort of thing are the ones men are playing around with.
That will be a big shock to the feminists in society, they will never admit to that!
By now you have probably guessed that I am bitter and you probably think I am very angry. Well, I am bitter yes, but not angry at all. I have lived and survived through two marriages to two sick abusive women, who not only abused me but our children as well. I have moved on and matured emotionally to the point that I am very happy in my own skin and have finally accepted that it is not my fault and that I did my best.
Both these women were abused as children; one by her father the other by her mother.
I did all the stupid things that are suggested on this website and other websites and also in the media, that a man should do to keep his wife happy. All I got back was more hatred and abuse.
Some idiot said that if the man helped out around with the wife's housework, then he is likely to have a better marriage and his wife might be more romantic.
Well, I'm here to tell you that this is a lie. These women just use you up and get lazier and guess what, there is even less romance than before.
Please tell me, why should I do housework when I am doing about 60 hrs a week at work, doing all the outside work at home plus helping out others and the wife is not working for money. She is at home full time looking after one child and has little housework to do, yet she expected me to do some as well.
As it turned out, I was raised by wonderful parents and we had a big family, this taught me how to work inside and out of the home. After my parents were through teaching me, I am now able to do just about everything I need to run a household and care for children. I can even iron clothes better than most women I have ever met and can teach my daughter the basics of using a sewing machine.
Not bad hey!
This last marriage that ended in 2006 saw the birth of 4 children. For almost the whole of the marriage, this lazy good for nothing abusive woman never cleaned the toilet, bathroom or laundry. I did it for 13 years out of the 15 year marriage. I did all the work outside, plus help with children and the story just goes on and on.
Now I am on my own without a woman, I now have the two eldest living with me 100% and the two youngest 50% and it is only a matter of time before I get another one. I am disabled because of a bad pain condition that originated from two too many whiplash injuries from motor vehicle accidents and from being abused by wives and driven to the point where stress was going to kill me, but didn't.
My problem today is, that one day I will want to have another relationship and I am totally lost as to how on earth am I to behave or treat this next woman.
I did all I could with two marriages and I did not force my views or my help on these women, I simply followed their lead and filled in the gaps, but still I was used and abused. I loved them unconditionally and accepted who and what they were, yet both abused me until they had disrespected me so much that they had to leave. They used lies and false allegations to get court orders and to try and destroy me totally.
I have survived, thanks be to God!!!!!!!!
So, how do I have another relationship with a woman, when in general western Caucasian women are actually quite lazy and very arrogant in that they expect to be feted all the time and to have a husband who will be like a servant to them.
This is not something I will ever do again, because no woman on this earth is worth that much pain.
So, please can someone give me, a cynical and badly battle scared man, some idea as to whether there are any REAL SINCERE women out there and how I should treat them if for some miracle I actually meet one?
Also, how do you pick a good woman from an abusive thug!!!
Thanks for your help and sorry about the length.