Not all of my friends are married, and not all my married friends follow the principles of monogamy.
I have had some awkward moments, when I have been thinking in terms of being faithful, and some of the guys are talking about having fun outside the boundaries of marriage.
I should have started a thread like this some years ago, and I don't really have clear guidelnes for the task of creating a separate position of fidelity, for myself, while firends or aquaintences discuss the concepts of extra-marital fun.
I am not trying to throw a wet blanket on their adventures, but I need to strike a balance that disincludes myself in seeking joy through those extra-marital activities.
I have sometimes avoided contact with men who might be advocating extra-marital adventures. I may also avoid discussions of issues of extra-marital exploits. Maybe this has been discussed under Infidelity, but it seem lke mor of a role building issue, not directly related to the complications of infidelity.
I may try to come up with some stock phrases to make a statment of differences less confrontational. I personally have a tendency to be oppositional, so disagreeing is not a problem; but finding ways to smooth over the differences is a challenge for me.
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