Hremom wrote:If she has a conscious, she can help him become more successful than her, then get independent of the workforce by inspiring her man to become the official breadwinner, while she enjoys the life of a lady, does hobbies, plants a vineyard, sow, and goes shopping with her girlfriends. Rough life.
You have an odd idea of what a stay at home wife and mother does. As such a woman, let me enlighten you a bit.
My day starts at 6 a.m. getting the kids up and ready for school. Making breakfast, making sure they are dressed appropriately for school, brushing and doing the hair for 3 little girls (braids, pig tails, or sometimes curling it), making lunches, and then getting them off to school. Before I get them up I've already started a load of laundry.
When I get back from taking them to school I do dishes, vacuum and do other household chores. All this is done while keeping an eye on a very active baby. At nap time I get time to get a shower. Once a week before the shower I clean the bathroom..... tub, sink and counter, toliet and mop and clean the mirror. By this time I've usually done a second load of laundry.
Now it's lunchtime for the baby and myself and afterwards I usually start dinner unless I'm making something that doesn't take all day. But usually I'm starting a pot roast, spaghetti sauce or some such that cooks slow and all day as those are the most tasty meals. While dinner is cooking I do another load of laundry, mop the kitchen and play with baby. Once a month I do take an afternoon to do any repairs to clothing. Once a week I do the ironing, encluding table linens. Twice a month I go grocery shopping and my Mom gets the school girls when they get home.
After school I help the girls with homework. Then they go play with their friends for a couple hours before dinner while baby gets a nap. This is my break. I can get on the internet, call a friend, write emails or a letter to those relatives who don't have email, make my grocery list or pay bills while I enjoy listening to the afternoon noons or sometimes a talk show.
At 530 p.m. it's time to get the kids home and washed up for dinner. They set the table while I get the food out of pots and pans and into serving dishes and on the table by 6 p.m. After dinner the girls take turns bathing and helping me with dishes. They are in bed by 8, 930 and 9 respectively.
My day still isn't over. Hubby works nights so I need to pack his "lunch" and if he is traveling this week I will need to pack his cooler of home cooked snack and reheatable meals. He packs his own suitcase. I feed the pets, vacuum again and then, if I'm lucky, enjoy an hour or two of reading, watching tv or working on a blanket I'm crocheting.
Add into all this that I do things like volenteer at school three days a week. Go to PTA meetings. Organize and prepare for dinner parties for Hubbies co-workers. Make goodies for school (no, I don't send store bought stuff.) and help my elderly aunt and mother who both live next door to me.
Where is this life of liesure you seem to invision? Lunch with my girlfriends? Shopping with them?
I haven't done that in years!! My working friends have more free time than I do because they hire baby sitters and a once a week housekeeper.
That is fine, I would expect a mother to be busy.
Once your children get in daycare or school, it is a different ball game. Case in point, on a local Television station a young man set out to prove it wasn't as hard staying at home all day, as his wife had led him to believe.
So he set out to see just how hard it was.
He woke up, prepared breakfast, mind you his wife had stepped out for two weeks, and got the kids on the bus by 8:30. He cleaned the kitchen, did some chores like a load of laundry, vacuumed, and made the beds.
He was then on the golf course by 9:30 and drinking beers by 2:00. He then met his children at home, made supper, cleaned up and they watched movies. Hardly the life of a slave. Hardly a life to complain about, he said he didn't break a sweat while she was gone, not once.
Now compare that with manly jobs, men do. Remembering all the while 95% of on the job deaths are men. For me, it is working on a roof three stories off the ground, carrying ladders, moving ropes, lines, roof jacks, 100 lbs of roofing material on a 9/12 pitch, sometimes the heat on the roof is 125 degrees. Now, I'm not complaining, just a case in point, men do valuable work in society and it's time we are noticed, and respected, loved and cared for by our wives. We sacrifice our lives on the job, and in the home. We are the first line of defense if a perverted product of fatherlessness breaks in to harm our wives and our children. We defend our families with our lives, and its time you women remember that. How are we to build a strong nation when our women emotionally destroy the half of American men?
The worst kicker of all, is working women have jobs men need to support current families and those that have chosen to leave us. As you've heard me say 85% of all divorces are initiated by women. Why not when then can extract wealth and leave.
I heard a woman on Tom Leykis today accuse him of being sexist. Her reasoning was that Tom had said there was nothing in Marriage for men. Why he said, "Alimony and child support". Basically he was bashing marriage. The female caller lamented that fact, and told Tom he was "Wrong." AS the conversation progressed she blurted out that "Women do not need men." Then she said something sinister, she said, "Most women only want a baby from men." "Bull Shit" I say. Only want a baby? Then to extract wealth from a man, through child support and alimony? BS again, men want women to want them, not a baby and then be turned into exactly what Tom said, a "wallet." BS again. That is not a healthy America. That is one that is unnatural and harmful.
There is a natural balance between men and women. We both need each other. That is upset when women get all the safety nets. They can play musical fathers, serial marriages, all the while extracting the means to survive from all said men, in all said manners. It is destruction.
How so, if you missed the above. Criminals account for 85% of all criminals, are from single mother households. To make a women feel safe, you need more safety nets for them, more tax dollars, more police, more prisons, lawyers, everything.
700 k out of wedlock births, all tax funded by Uncle Samuel. More destruction. This cannot go on, stably.
Do you know what, when a man dies, his wife gets child support from the state. If they are divorced. Case in point, my buddie lost his brother from lung cancer at 37, smoker. He had a successful job making 4 k a month, well he lost that after the divorce. The court had ordered him to pay 2k a month. Well he had found a job making exactly 2k, and still was ordered to pay that. With some help from his father every month, he was still poverty point. Well he keep smoking, but he stopped eating. He lost lbs and was at 125 lbs when he developed cancer. On his death bed his ex wife brought in the gentlemen she cheated on her now dying ex husband with. Also she had left with the new man. He had three children.
Well, when he died, now her new sugar daddy pays the bills. The state pays her 2k a month. More BS. Our tax dollars hard at work recycling the same garbage with the new girls. Products of a messed up home life.
There are more stories like this.
We need to re balance the relationships between men and women. We need child support and alimony in all its forms, sacked. This will make women work harder to stay together, and take care of their husbands. Otherwise I will never marry another one of you in America, this coming from a dyed in the wool, white man. I will look elsewhere. You women can play miss independence, all the while ready to pounce on alimony and child support is not being independent, and I will not stand for it. It is unequal and unfair. You all should see it aswell.
Good night.