I'll try to keep this relatively short, but give adequate backstory. My wife and I have been married and struggling for about 2 years. She has screamed at me so often that I love my parents more than her. That I have put them in front of her in my decision making process over and over again and thus she cannot forgive my past transgressions. She hates my parents and has been quick to tell me exactly how much she hates them repeatedly. This puts me on the defense, because they're people that I love and that raised me. I'm currently living with a friend of mine after having another blow out fight. I want to save my marriage, but all the times I've put my parents in front of my wife, I didn't realize that I was doing it. Now she's deteriorated physically, mentally, and emotionally. She is struggling with depression. Her hair falls out. She flies off the handle at the smallest mistake that I make. Her jaw hurts, and she blames me for everything. We've had the same conversation over and over again where she begs, screams, or cries and tells me to fix it. I tell her I don't know how, that I've been trying, or that I'm looking for answers. I am. It kills me to watch her fall apart like this. I'm in the military and stationed far away from her home. She feels isolated. She misses her folks, and she has few friends here.
Has anyone ever been into a similar situation? I'm hoping I can get some insight here. I know I can't be alone. Thanks guys, and Happy New Year.