Wife is not approving my possible female business partner
Posted: Tue Jan 28, 2014 2:39 pm
First, a little background: wife and I dated for 6 years, married almost a year ago and she is currently in her first trimester with our first child. We also knew each other before dating, and were good friends for nearly 7 years before dating, so there is not much, if any secrets, between us .
The problem is as follows...I left a job at my company and am planning to make my own business. I am in the design industry, FYI. Wife is thrilled, and she encouraged me towards this decision for a long time. At this previous job I had a female coworker who left about the same time I did and is also on the path of opening a self-owned business. We talked and it would be in our interest to pull resources together and open a firm together. We complement each other well in work, have different specific fields of expertise, and are both financially situated for now. So we could both invest together in our venture. This coworker is female, and a few years younger the me. At first, the wife was ok with this, but was not thrilled with this idea . People around us, including her family, were ok with this. So I started negotiations with my future business partner. This was before we knew about the pregnancy.
Now, after the pregnancy was discovered, and after the plans for our firm are starting to get more concrete and definitive, the missus says no to the whole idea! Says that it would not be ok to spend a whole day with a female business partner at the office, to go on trips with her, etc...wife's problem is the perception people would have of the 2 of us (myself and the younger, single female) ...and that we would become too close, familiarize, and things of that nature....she claims to trust me not to go out of bounds, but does not trust her....
Is she ok to think this situation is unacceptable? Or is her jealousy ruining a good business opportunity?
edit: grammar
The problem is as follows...I left a job at my company and am planning to make my own business. I am in the design industry, FYI. Wife is thrilled, and she encouraged me towards this decision for a long time. At this previous job I had a female coworker who left about the same time I did and is also on the path of opening a self-owned business. We talked and it would be in our interest to pull resources together and open a firm together. We complement each other well in work, have different specific fields of expertise, and are both financially situated for now. So we could both invest together in our venture. This coworker is female, and a few years younger the me. At first, the wife was ok with this, but was not thrilled with this idea . People around us, including her family, were ok with this. So I started negotiations with my future business partner. This was before we knew about the pregnancy.
Now, after the pregnancy was discovered, and after the plans for our firm are starting to get more concrete and definitive, the missus says no to the whole idea! Says that it would not be ok to spend a whole day with a female business partner at the office, to go on trips with her, etc...wife's problem is the perception people would have of the 2 of us (myself and the younger, single female) ...and that we would become too close, familiarize, and things of that nature....she claims to trust me not to go out of bounds, but does not trust her....
Is she ok to think this situation is unacceptable? Or is her jealousy ruining a good business opportunity?
edit: grammar