Wife supporting husband
Posted: Sat Oct 18, 2008 9:45 pm
Hi,
I met my wife in 2002 and we hit it off great. She lived 1 hr from me then but at the time it did not matter. As we got serious, we started talking about moving and she told me that she does not want to move up north where I have a great career and that she wants to be with her family. I said that it's fine and we would figure this out. After 3 years, I think! of dating, we got engaged.
I quit my job (as it was getting slow at the time) and I got a job closer to where shes from. My current boss tried to keep me ($$$) and I turned it down. He sweetened the deal more, spoke to my then fiance, and I kept the job.
Now we live where shes from and my job is 86mi away one way and I go in 3x/week and work from home 2x/week.
My job is great, business is great and she sees me tired and all and we fight all the time now b/c she says I am not helping enough with our baby.
I wake up at 5am, drive to work and come home by 6.15pm and then take the baby, bath her, and take her so my wife takes some time to herself. I cant feed the baby b/c she wont take a bottle.
She still thinks I dont do enuf and that I dont appreciate the sacrafices she makes.
She stopped working to raise the baby and I feel she should have followed me to where my job is.
Now shes talking about moving up to where my job is and I am afraid she will resent me for ever b/c I forced her to move away from her family whom she does not see that often anyways.
I love her but why does she put wanting to be near her family over me?
Any advice?
-lost
I met my wife in 2002 and we hit it off great. She lived 1 hr from me then but at the time it did not matter. As we got serious, we started talking about moving and she told me that she does not want to move up north where I have a great career and that she wants to be with her family. I said that it's fine and we would figure this out. After 3 years, I think! of dating, we got engaged.
I quit my job (as it was getting slow at the time) and I got a job closer to where shes from. My current boss tried to keep me ($$$) and I turned it down. He sweetened the deal more, spoke to my then fiance, and I kept the job.
Now we live where shes from and my job is 86mi away one way and I go in 3x/week and work from home 2x/week.
My job is great, business is great and she sees me tired and all and we fight all the time now b/c she says I am not helping enough with our baby.
I wake up at 5am, drive to work and come home by 6.15pm and then take the baby, bath her, and take her so my wife takes some time to herself. I cant feed the baby b/c she wont take a bottle.
She still thinks I dont do enuf and that I dont appreciate the sacrafices she makes.
She stopped working to raise the baby and I feel she should have followed me to where my job is.
Now shes talking about moving up to where my job is and I am afraid she will resent me for ever b/c I forced her to move away from her family whom she does not see that often anyways.
I love her but why does she put wanting to be near her family over me?
Any advice?
-lost