background- we're both 26, been together for 8 years, married for 3, no kids
the problem- ive never been very social, usually only went out if my husband's friends invited us. i didnt have a lot of friends of my own outside of work and we never went out socially.
recently ive befriended a few girls from his work who he introduced me to. i've really connected with two of these women and we like to go out. we usually go out in the evenings and can have late nights occasionally, not getting home till 12 or 1. on these late occasions we're always at one of two places- karaoke or one of the girl's home. we go out a few times per month, so not too often.
my husband is always invited to join us but usually declines. i always ask him if its ok that i go and he always says yes, have fun. then i get home and he'd clearly upset.
we talked recently and he says its because he wants me home with him. i understand that, but when we're at home, it's not exactly "quality time". we sit and watch tv until bed. we dont go on dates, we dont really socialize with other couples because he likes to stay home.
i feel as though if i dont sit at home with him every night im painted as an awful person. but i dont want to grow resentful that im not "allowed" to go out on occasion (i know im allowed, but the guilt trip i get when i come home makes me feel like im not supposed to be going out).
what do you guys think? am i being selfish for going out when i know he doesnt like it? is he unreasonable? whats a good compromise so we're both happy?