My wife does not trust me with keeping our daughter safe.
Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 10:03 am
My wife and I are in our mid 30s and have a perfect 5-½ year old girl. We were at a NASCAR race and my daughter and I were looking for my wife (I think. It was a while ago so I don’t remember why it was just my daughter and I). The place was mobbed so I made sure to hold my daughters hand the whole time. We came to the restrooms and I really had to go. The men’s room was packed, and a small line started to form. As I looked around, debating what to do, I herd someone say “Sir?” It was a woman in her early 50s with a staff shirt, a laminate hanging around her neck, and a waki-talky in her hand. She was dressed consistently with the other staff members at the event. She seemed to notice my dilemma and asked if it would help if I left my daughter with her while I use the men’s room. I said okay and told them both not to go any ware. When I came out less than a minute later, I said thank you very much and the woman replied that it was no problem and she smiled and said she understood.
When I told my wife this story months later she was in shock. She accused me of putting my needs before my child’s. For the next 3 days she was crying, having panic attacks, and saying because I didn’t know that it was wrong, how could she ever trust me again. I told her that I was very sorry and I understand now why that was a huge mistake. I also told her I will never do anything like that again. Nothing seems to help. It does not seem like she can get over it. What should I do now?
When I told my wife this story months later she was in shock. She accused me of putting my needs before my child’s. For the next 3 days she was crying, having panic attacks, and saying because I didn’t know that it was wrong, how could she ever trust me again. I told her that I was very sorry and I understand now why that was a huge mistake. I also told her I will never do anything like that again. Nothing seems to help. It does not seem like she can get over it. What should I do now?