Asking for Wife's Praise
Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:55 am
Asking for Praise
It is challenging for me to ask my wife for praise. For Praise to be Real, it should logically be voluntary! Right? WHY should I have toa ask for Praise, that I have earned and I deserve?
Perhaps. But some marriage books suggest that Wives are not tuned in to giving recognition that is meaningful to a husband.
There fore, this thread is started with the ideas, or phrases, and rationales for asking for praise.
Further, how to enjoy praise, after you have had to ask for it.
WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM WIFE:
1. Thanks for the effort you make in getting to work on schedule.
2. Thanks for the effort you make in getting the cars inspected, emissions renew license plates, and get the oil changed.
3. Thanks for overlooking things that irritate you like food particles left in the sink, and left on standing dishes on the counter, and food sauces left spilled on the kitchen counters..
4. Thanks for overlooking that I am streaky and inconsistent.
5. Thanks for making an effort to help with the laundry.
6. Thanks for listening to my wishes to delay buying parts for the washer.
7. Thanks for helping with the yard work.
8. Thanks for managing paying my credit cards.
9. Thanks for your help in managing the family finances.
10. Thanks for often trying to keep your socks picked up, and put in the hamper.
11. Thanks for hanging up the towels in the bathroom
12. Thanks for sponging off the soap residue around the tub after you take a bath.
13. Thanks for keeping up with the news, and letting me know what you think is important for us to think about for our future and retirement.
15. Thanks for thinking about religious ideals and underpinning beliefs that help us to follow ethical ideas of right and wrong, and how we treat others.
16. Thanks for working to improve your social skills, so you can get along better on the job, and in the family.
17. Thanks for giving some attention to parenting skills, so we can give good counsel to our children and friends.
18. Thanks for making an effort to sort out the mail sooner than later.
19. Thanks for your help to shop for automobiles, as we need to replace, or consider expensive auto repairs and alternatives
20. Thanks for working on the computers, and trying to work around the closed door cabinet that makes things more difficult to work on things.
21. Thanks for answering any of my questions with openness, and giving me a feeling that you are not hiding things from me.
22. Thanks for listening to me with understanding when I just need a hug.
23. Thanks for taking the initiative, to try to find compromises, when disagreements come up.
24. Thanks for giving me the feeling that if I need your full attention, focus and application of powers, that you will be there to help me.
25. Thanks for being gentle with me under all circumstances.
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It is challenging for me to ask my wife for praise. For Praise to be Real, it should logically be voluntary! Right? WHY should I have toa ask for Praise, that I have earned and I deserve?
Perhaps. But some marriage books suggest that Wives are not tuned in to giving recognition that is meaningful to a husband.
There fore, this thread is started with the ideas, or phrases, and rationales for asking for praise.
Further, how to enjoy praise, after you have had to ask for it.
WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM WIFE:
1. Thanks for the effort you make in getting to work on schedule.
2. Thanks for the effort you make in getting the cars inspected, emissions renew license plates, and get the oil changed.
3. Thanks for overlooking things that irritate you like food particles left in the sink, and left on standing dishes on the counter, and food sauces left spilled on the kitchen counters..
4. Thanks for overlooking that I am streaky and inconsistent.
5. Thanks for making an effort to help with the laundry.
6. Thanks for listening to my wishes to delay buying parts for the washer.
7. Thanks for helping with the yard work.
8. Thanks for managing paying my credit cards.
9. Thanks for your help in managing the family finances.
10. Thanks for often trying to keep your socks picked up, and put in the hamper.
11. Thanks for hanging up the towels in the bathroom
12. Thanks for sponging off the soap residue around the tub after you take a bath.
13. Thanks for keeping up with the news, and letting me know what you think is important for us to think about for our future and retirement.
15. Thanks for thinking about religious ideals and underpinning beliefs that help us to follow ethical ideas of right and wrong, and how we treat others.
16. Thanks for working to improve your social skills, so you can get along better on the job, and in the family.
17. Thanks for giving some attention to parenting skills, so we can give good counsel to our children and friends.
18. Thanks for making an effort to sort out the mail sooner than later.
19. Thanks for your help to shop for automobiles, as we need to replace, or consider expensive auto repairs and alternatives
20. Thanks for working on the computers, and trying to work around the closed door cabinet that makes things more difficult to work on things.
21. Thanks for answering any of my questions with openness, and giving me a feeling that you are not hiding things from me.
22. Thanks for listening to me with understanding when I just need a hug.
23. Thanks for taking the initiative, to try to find compromises, when disagreements come up.
24. Thanks for giving me the feeling that if I need your full attention, focus and application of powers, that you will be there to help me.
25. Thanks for being gentle with me under all circumstances.
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